This week and last week have been the spring recruitment period for my sorority, Gamma Phi Beta. After spending several hours trying to talk to girls and sparking an interest in greek life it dawned on me that this whole process is really weird. If you break it down to the bare minimum it looks like this: We attempt to look as cute as possible in order to attract girls. We stand awkwardly in various locations on campus to perform this task and essentially bombard girls until they agree to hand over their contact info. Then we proceed to “date” these girls for a week to see if we’re actually interested in them beyond the fact that they too “looked cute.” Finally we vote to accept the girl and throw a big celebration in their honor. This is not the usual way of making friends. But what if dating went down like that? It would be so much easier to find a decent guy!
Girls would set up tables and look as cute as possible to collect contact info from a guy. Next we would set up activities throughout the week to “test-drive” this potential soul mate. All of our friends would then vote on whether or not said guy was good enough to date you and at the end there would be a big party! We could call it boyfriend recruitment! (But if we’re being honest here, this is almost how it goes anyway.)
The moral of the story is that even though this time has been reserved for recruiting new sisters, we live in a day-to-day recruitment of sorts. Our relationships are determined by the first awkward moments and followed by either bonding or moving on. I think it’s important to always put on your best face, but not one that isn’t true to who you are and what you’re about.